I’ve had an idea!

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It’s 2.30am, and I should be in bed. I should leave this post for a time when I can express myself clearly, but I have to get it out there now. People are suffering and dying as a result of addiction, and I think I’ve found a unique way to help addicts.

It’s all thanks to my wonderful, compassionate WP friends. I hope you all know who you are. Ever since I started blogging I’ve been looking for a way to help addicts and their families. I’ve been convinced that there’s something I can do which hasn’t been done before. Maybe this has, but I’ve never seen it.

I’ll explain how you fantastic friends gave me the idea, and then I’ll tell you the plan.

From the very first time I began writing about my children’s addictions – and particularly Laura’s (that’s her in the picture), you have sent messages of love and support, often telling me that you will include both of us in your prayers. I’ve been sharing these messages with Laura, and they have meant a lot to her – more as time goes on, and her mental health improves – and along with it, an increasing desire to go into recovery. There have been hiccups along the way, but each one is less severe.

What I’m saying is, that she’s more well than she’s been for over three years. She’s even found herself a Guardian Angel of the human sort, right here in this town. He’s a wonderful man, father two six healthy children and a crazy amount of Grandchildren. This is all thanks to you, my amazing friends, and also quite a number of caring strangers who’ve dipped in and sent me beautiful messages.

I want to build a blog which the loved ones of addicts can connect with. They can tell their stories, send pictures, or not, as they wish. All they have to do is give the name of “their” addict – even a fake name would do, it will still represent the same person. Each name will go onto a list, and every family, friend – whatever – will pledge to focus on that group of addicts, every day, and do whatever they feel comfortable with – whether it is praying, or sending out a pink bubble, or simply thinking positive thoughts about that group of people.

Whatever they believe God to be, or if they are atheist or agnostic, it will work.

Whether they are  Christian or Hindu, their God will hear them. But here’s the most wonderful thing – if they are atheist or agnostic, all the addicts on that list will benefit from your thoughts, provided they’re in touch with the donors (whoever put their name on the list), because THE DONORS WILL TELL THEM ABOUT IT, and the addicts will feel less isolated, more nurtured.

It’s aimed mainly at those addicts who wish to get clean, but need help to do so, but anybody will be welcomed into the fold.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about people with an addict in the family, it;’s that most of them hate addiction, and they’re not just concerned for their children, but for everybody else’s as well. They’ll genuinely care about everyone on the list, and everyone who is suffering because of addiction.

I know this can work. I know it will make a difference, but only if it is marketed properly.

I need:

  • Someone who’s hot on publicity
  • Someone to look after a Twitter account
  • Someone to look after a FaceBook page
  • Advice I can understand about tags, and stuff to do with attracting the right readers to my blog.

We all do our best to make our own blogs successful, but this is important. Lives are at stake. Does anyone have any advice for me?

Laura’s beauty returns a little every day. I want the kind of help that you have given her, to be given to addicts, everywhere. I want to facilitate that, but I can’t do enough without help and advice.

If you think that reblogging, or sharing anywhere else, may be useful, I’d be happy for you to do that.

I should add a contact form, but I never quite figured out how to do it, so it’ll have to wait for the moment.

Okay, Jane, be brave. Click publish.

©Jane Paterson Basil

 

 

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118 thoughts on “I’ve had an idea!

    1. thank you Judy. Laura is adorable, though there’s another side to her. She has untreated Borderline Personality Disorder, and it’s frightening. but everything is going to be okay.
      Happy New Year to you too.

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  1. Great concept, I hope you can get it started. Unfortunately, my skills are quite limited in that area, but I do have a niece that could use prayers She’s been in rehab twice and I just don’t know anymore how she’s doing. She’s embarrassed and has pulled herself away from family, at least that’s how it seems even though we do text occasionally.

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    1. Watch this space – I’ll be publicising the blog on here when I get it started. It would be great to have your niece on the list. I’ve made a note of your blog, too, so I can contact you.
      I’ll do the best I can for your niece.
      Hugs, Jane

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  2. Hey Jane, I found this through Jacquie’s blog! For some reason I’m not getting notifications of your posts anymore. I’ve been wondering how you are. This sounds like a great idea. Anything I can do to help ? I’m not so great with the social media and IT stuff. But I will reblog !

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    1. Thank you Raili – the more reblogs I get, the more likely I am to find the help that I need. This idea came to me in the middle of the night, and has been brewing for a few days. It’s what I’ve been waiting for, and it’s really important to me. People tell me their stories and I hate feeling so helpless. I want to help take their pain away. I have to.

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  3. What a fantastic idea Jane, I’m excited for you and for those I know you will help. For a one year, this is one great idea that is sure to work wonders! I hope all is good with you, missed you when you weren’t around. Happy New Year to you and the very best of luck with this project. xx

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    1. Thank you Liza. I feel much better now that I have a direction. This idea seems so obvious I don’t know why I didn’t think of it before. I’ve been racking my brains for so long…
      Happy New Year, friend. xxx

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              1. Good luck with it. I’ve tried to get my head round SEO but failed so far. I do crop up on search engines now, but I think that might be through volume (560 + posts and counting) rather than my exper manipulation of these systems. Hope it goes well 🙂

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        1. So do I. I haven’t been very active on my blog lately, and I think a lot of my followers have given up on me – and I need access as many people as possble. I wish I’d thought of this three months ago, when my blog was flying.

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  4. I am not a FB fan but I have 2 Twitter accounts that I use to spread the word about my beBee ambassador position. My Twitter accounts are a lot to keep up with because I promote the writings and blogs of others, but a Twitter account for Laura should be easy. You just sign up and like, Tweet and Retweet. There’s not much to keep up with if you don’t want to. Good luck and take it step by step.

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    1. Thank you for the advice, Eugenia.
      My blog posts will automatically go to Twitter, so I don’t have to worry about that. I just didn’t understand the etiquette.
      So if someone likes my Tweet or Retweets, all I do is click like? No more than that? I thought that, for a Twitter account to be successful, you had to follow other account holders, and be really active.

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  5. I feel extraordinarily excited for you, Jane. On the tags and driving traffic to your blog, I recently did a ‘content marketing’ free course with ‘Shaw Academy” recently. It’s 5 week’s long, and twice a week tutorials, but you can catch up if you miss them. Not sure how accessible the ‘free’ part is now, but may be worth checking out.

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    1. I’m pretty excited, too.
      Thanks for the advice, Safar. It sounds like what I need. I’ll Google it. WP have advice on marketing, but for some reason I found it confusing.
      I’m sorry I dropped out of your ECo thing – I’m sure you know that it was simply because I fell apart for a while. But I can still access it…

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  6. Ideas that come at night are great ideas, only, we don’t give them enough credit in the morning. So, yours is great, with potential to become a huuuge one – on condition people – that’s us – make it spread to work. I am so happy to hear about your daughter, and I truly believe in the power of prayer and of positive input from others.
    My word: Go For It!!!

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    1. Thanks for the great encouragement. When I thought of this, I knew it was too good to be allowed to slip away. Laura has been helped so much by my WP friends, that I wanted to give others the opportunity to receive that help.

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        1. Good luck with your memoir, if you’re looking to get it published.
          Yes, I care. I care about the ecology, about war and hatred, about starvation and suffering, but I’m hooked into addiction (what an appropriate phrase…). I hate the suffering it causes, stealing our children and destroying their families. I hate that so many others suffer the way my children and I do, and, finally, I think I’ve found a way I can help.

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    1. You’ve already done more than that by reblogging. Thank you for your prayers and for reblogging. It makes a huge difference. My daughter texted me today and sent me a link to a charity she thought I’d be interested in. She hasn’t been that engaged with my interests for years – it’s miraculous.

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  7. I think this is a super idea! You know there are lots of sites for families of cancer victims who are going through chemo. The sites are both for helping to keep the caregivers buoyed up and for caregivers to keep others informed of how things are going. I’m thinking it would work the same way somehow. You probably need to get it up and running and then figure out how to get it close to the top in Google searches. I so have NO expertise in that area. I don’t do Facebook or Twitter. But I do have a couple friends who may have some ideas. One in Australia and one here in the states. I will forward your email to them and see if they have any suggestions. Then tomorrow I will reblog your post since I’ve already reblogged one today.

    And Judy at Life Lessons is right. Laura looks just like her mama!!! 😀

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    1. I go on a lot of addiction sites, and I chase up their links. I also follow a lot of addiction sites on FaceBook. I’ve never seen it done before – but it doesn’t mean there’s nothing out there. I’d like to see such sites everywhere, so more people would be able to access one.

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  8. A wonderful idea, I’ve spent many hours transcribing interviews with grandparents/siblings/drug misusers. The families always had so much to say and many lacked a support network. The addict often struggled to untangle from their social circles. I hope your new blog helps many.

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    1. Did I know you were in that line of work? I’m afraid I’ve been forgetting a lot lately. Your encourageming words inspire me.
      There are a lot of support blogs out there – and FaceBook pages – but I don’t know how well they work. I’m hoping this will be interactive, enabling followers to communicate with each other: I don’t know how to facilitate that, but I intend to find out over the next few weeks.
      Yes, addicts become disenfranchised, and parents feel isolated; inferior to those they once thought equals.
      For a while, I felt ashamed each time I walked down the street.

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  9. Reblogged this on Impromptu Promptlings and commented:
    For those of you who don’t know Jane from Making it write, she’s the beautiful mom of four adult children, two of whom are addicts. I have been so inspired watching her cope and trying to make a difference in their lives, and now she feels called to the mission of encouraging the parents of other addicts. She is planning to start a new website along those lines. Please take a minute to read Jane’s post, and if there’s anyway you can lend a hand, she’d love to hear from you. 🙂

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  10. Sounds like a great idea Jane!! I’ve been thinking about you and wondering where you were..seems for some reason I stopped getting notifications telling me you posted a blog post 😬 I’ve now fixed it!

    Happy New Year my friend ❤

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    1. Thank you Linda.
      I’ve a feeling that the notifications sometimes switch off if you don’t post for a while.
      I’m embarrassed to tell you this, after what you’ve been through, but I hit a wall, back in November. When things are really awful, I keep going, because I may be needed. I may have a couple of down days, but I bounce back up. When things calm down I collapse, and that’s what happened. I’m over it now.
      Happy New Year to you, brave Amazon xxx

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        1. My teenage daughter said something like that. She was seven months pregnant. Her partner had just died of pneumonia, and she was looking after her friend, who was upset over a terrible row she’d had with her brother. She was inconsolable until Claire mediated between them, but then she felt guilty for bothering Claire at such a time. Claire said that pain is pain, whatever the reason behind it, and she had no right to claim that hers was more acute; a selfless statement for one who still secretly grieves, 20 years on.

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    1. Thank you, Bernadette. I’d be really grateful.
      I was desperately unhappy, but I’m over it now. I used to wonder why two of my children were addicts. I felt that maybe it was because I was supposed to do something, but I couldn”t figure out what that thing was. Maybe this was it.

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        1. Deep down I know why it happened. when they were children, I warned their father that if he didn’t stop wilfully using such dreadful parenting practices something awful would happen. He ricocheted between bullying and spoiling, was inconsistant, encouraged them to keep secrets from me, lied for them, taught them to lie, encouraged unethical behaviour, obstructed me when I sought help… I should have left him before it was too late, but he had destroyed my confidence before either of them were even born. I think he resented me because I was – or had been – intelligent and capable, and his behaviour towards them was just another attack on me. I think he has terrible regrets now.

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  11. Hi Jane and belated Happy New Year for you and yours 🙂 Wonderful to read that Laura is doing so well and seems a fab idea for a support blog – a bit like a ‘prayer wall’ is how it reminded me of in part. Adding a contact form is quite simple if you’re using the dashboard version you find it in ‘add media’ . Maybe I’m wrong and it’s in the ‘improved editor’ tho if you’re posting from that and it’s not there with ‘Add media’, scroll down to WPAdmin’ to access the dashboard. Hope that makes sense, sorry I’ve not checked for if you made one already as on my phone at moment. With twitter and facebook campaigns tagging enters posts into those streams and building a network of interested and willing sharers helps recirculation. As you know already. Soz! Maybe there’s a media-marketing ‘firm’ or professional or even a uni/college community project or somewhere that might be able to help. With all the goodwill in the world allowing volunteer control of your social media could get quite dicey. But I’m sure you have enough know how to set all sorts of such fine detail while you develop your project. Best wishes and I’ll try to catch up with you again in near future. Cheers 🙂

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    1. I think you’re right about volunteer help. It may be different if a group of us were setting this up together. I expect I can manage it all. It was the time factor I was worried about. I have other commitments – but if I have to give a couple of them up for this, so be it. This project should be my top priority. Everything else is just play, for my own pleasure.
      I haven’t made a contact page – I should do that now. Then I’ll get on twitter and start taking an interest in appropriate sites. I need to start preparing now.

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  12. I’m jumping in a little late on this conversation, but I am going to start blogging about addiction. (That’s my plan anyway!) In an earlier comment you talked about Facebook groups and these blogs if they would be helpful to anyone and my answer to that is absolutely! Addicts need encouragement and to know that people really, honestly care. Relapses are going to happen, but as long as people keep are trying to fight their demons and beat addiction that is all I ask. Way too many people are dying because of this horrible disease and if all it takes is one of us to say that we care, we understand, and that we’re here, I am willing to be that person! Maybe we can help some people together!

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    1. I’m in the middle of a crisis at the moment, and I may not be able to get my planned new blog off the ground as soon as I had hoped (the beginning of April) but I’d like us to talk some more when things are calm.

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